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The SUNS in Phoenix

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Music, Networking, News on June 3, 2012 at 5:04 pm

If I didn’t know any better, I’d think there is indeed more than one sun residing over Phoenix. I moved here Fall 2011 and the weather felt delightfully Spring’ish (compared to the cold/hot Texas weather). We are now in the early throws of Summer and every time I walk outside I immediately hear that song, “We built this city” [by Starship], but the words are tailored to capture the warm essence of Phoenix and is sang by Satan of course. The lyrics are as followed:

“I built this city!
I built this city on brims and coals!”

Yes. It’s hot in the Phoenix metroplex, so I tend to stay in the house more often than not and talk to you [blog]. I’m 7 months into new residency here in the Arizona state and I’ve finally stumbled upon a free SANTAN SUN NEWS copy and a plethora of COOL THINGS HAPPENING in Phoenix this Summer by way of Films and Music.

Where do I start? Well, let’s start with films – since I’m a ‘reel go-getter’. The following 10-Film Get Reel Series of DOCUMENTARIES span topics ranging from Johnny Cash to 1960′s urban blacks to competing pastry chefs will be Shown For FREE at the Downtown Chandler Public Library from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. Tuesdays June 5th through July 31st:

June 5thCALAVERA HIGHWAY
A sweeping story of seven Mexican-American men grappling with the meaning of masculinity, fatherhood and a legacy of rootless beginnings. [90-minutes]

June 12thJOHNNY CASH: The Man, His World, His Music
In this classic 1969 documentary, the Man in Black is captured at his peak, the first of many in a looming roller coaster career. Fresh on the heels of his Folsom Prison album Cash reveals the dark intensity and raw talent that made him a country music star and cultural icon. [90-minutes]

June 19thREVOLUTION ’67
An illuminating account of events too often relegated to footnotes in U.S. history – the black urban rebellions of the 1960′s. [90-minutes]

June 26thUP HEARTBREAK HILL
The film follows two Native American teens torn between the lure of opportunities outside their remote Navajo reservation community and the cultural ties that blind them to home. [60-minutes]

Please stay tuned to this site on which you can rely,
because there are more FREE DOCUMENTARY FILMS in July.

And for all of you who like eargasms of class –
here’s the calendar where you can find some good JAZZ:

June 5HONORING DAVE COOK
Lifetime Achievement Award from Phoenix Musicians Union Local 586 featuring a re-creation of Cook’s Vanguard combo, led by Ted Sistrunk-bass + Beth Lederman-piano, Big Jim Henry-trumpet, Byron Ruth-tenor sax, John Lewis-drums, and more….
7:30 p.m. Tues., $5 – $3 students, FREE for Union Members & children under 12.
Kotter Hall, Union Bldg, 1202 E. Oak St., Phoenix 85006

June 8thPRESCOTT JAZZ SUMMIT’S: Jazz at Noon
Various musicians, noon -1 p.m. FREE. Outdoors, Courthouse Square, in Prescott.

June 10thHOWLING AT THE HIGHLANDS
Presented by Prescott Jazz Summit: Renee Patrick-vocals, Mix Vax-trumpet-flulgelhorn, Tony Vacca-sax-flute, Beth Lederman-piano, Ted Sistrunk-bass, Cleve Huff-drums
3-5:30 p.m., $20
Highlands Center for Natural History Ampitheater
1735 S. Walker Road in Prescott #928-776-9550

June 14thRAMSEY LEWIS QUINTET
7 p.m., Thurs. $40 – $50
9 p.m., Thurs. $30 – $40
Musical Instrument Museum, 4725 E. Mayo Blvd., Phoenix, 85050 #480-478-6000
themim.org

June 17thDENNIS ROWLAND and EXTREME DECIBEL BIG BAND
Annual Jazz in AZ Fathers Day Dance, 3-7 p.m. Sunday, in Scottsdale Plaza Resort Main Ballroom
7200 N. Scottsdale Road, Scottsdale 85253
$30 [advance purchase], $35 [door price], $5 DISCOUNT for Members
#480-994-0807
jazzinaz.org

June 24thDAN REED (trumpet) + 52ND STREET JAZZ BAND
1-4 p.m., Crowne Plaza San Marcos Golf Resort, 1 San Marcos Place, Chandler
Arizona Classic Jazz Society event
$10 members
$15 non-members
FREE Under 18 #480-620-3941
azclassicjazz.org

So many to pick and choose from when The SUNS in Phoenix are so nigh,
I’m Qui
Glad to have cool alternatives
when a sister wants to stay on the inside.

A Few Pointers

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on May 31, 2012 at 11:26 am

Thursday is a Great Day to list a few positive quick bits — so here they are…

A Few Pointers to point you in the right direction::

Surprise! Sleepiness Revs CREATIVITY

Good news for those with endless to-do’s: A study in the journal Thinking & Reasoning found that creativity peaks when you’re tired. When night owls and early birds were given problems to solve at daybreak and then in the late afternoon, subjects scored 18 percent higher during their respective “slumps” ran at more optimal times. Fatigue seems to limit the brain’s control of inhibitory processes, prompting thoughts to wander in a way that encourages “Eureka!” insights.

The Power of GIVING CREDIT even when it isn’t due

Next time your husband burns dinner, thank him for trying. A study at Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois, found that embracing a spouse’s attempts to improve their behavior– even if the efforts fall short– results in more harmony and relationship satisfaction. Researchers explain that celebrating small successes and believing your partner is capable of positive change will actually make his sincere efforts more effective and foster greater trust and respect between you.

Six WORDS that make GOOD DEEDS Sweeter

Including a note that says “I made this just for you” with the cake you bring to your new neighbors can heighten their enjoyment of the treat. According to a University of Maryland study, food tastes better when people perceive that it’s made with love. When subjects received candy with the note “I picked this just for you,” they rated the goodies as significantly sweeter than identical candy that had the message “I just picked it randomly.” Psychologists theorize that the intentions of others guide the mind’s interpretations of physical experiences.

A compelling reason to IGNORE SOCIAL PRESSURE

There’s a reason we find it so difficult to say no to the brownies at the neighborhood block party: Researchers at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland found that people with a strong desire to please others tend to munch more in social situations in order to put those around them at ease. To avoid over indulging, try responding to food offers with a polite “Not right now.” This stalling tactic appeases social pressure while allowing you to tune in to real hunger cues.

85% of Women report feeling ANNOYED BY FaceBook FRIENDS

Secret Ingredient to Lasting SUCCESS

If your goal of getting to bed earlier often gets edged out by extra time spent surfing the Web, take a few seconds to reflect on your faith or recite a favorite prayer. A study at Queen’s University in Canada found that brief exposure to religious words prompted subjects with depleted self-control to demonstrate significantly higher levels of patience and self-restraint during subsequent tasks, compared with participants who weren’t shown spiritual words. Researchers believe that calling to mind the strength and power of an omniscient God helps replenish the resilience needed to resist temptation.

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Every now and then, everyone needs a hug and a kiss.
Every now and then we need a lil guidance thru quick bits.

Every now and then we need to read a magazine so –
it was a First For Women Mag that yielded us this info.

KNOWLEDGE is KEY and my name is Qui.
I will be utilizing these pointers on me! (-:

Go. See. Do.

In Movies, Music, News on May 30, 2012 at 10:38 am

Here’s a guide to this season’s hippest, hottest festivals as laid out by Kevin Chappell and Karen Good-Marable of Ebony Magazine. Sync your social calendaryou don’t want to miss these dates::

Let the Music Play!
What’s better than hearing great live music with the sun on your shoulder? Multiday outdoor festivals are a great opportunity to see performances by big-name artists, not to mention a chance to relax, meet interesting people and explore the local culture. Think of it as an all-inclusive vacay and a major city-revenue booster, which equal a win-win –and a good time– for all. Whether you fancy Philly hip hop, Chicago down-home blues or Jamaican dancehall, we’ve got you covered. So grab your flip-flops, your big blanket and your boo. Summer has arrived, and there’s no better time to hit a festival– or two.

Capital Jazz Fest
Washington, D.C. – Baltimore area June 1-3
capitaljazz.com
The Beats: There’s nothing quite like an outdoor concert in Chocolate City, and the CJF is a bona fide summer must. Celebrating its 20th year, the festival features more than 30 national acts on two stages (jazz and soul). In between sets, browse the Marketplace, which offers fine art and crafts, and the food court where you can sample a genuine Maryland crab cake.
Headliners: Anita Baker, George Benson, India.Aire, Charlie Wilson, Four-Play, Musiq Soulchild and Valerie Simpson who will play tribute to her late husband, Nick Ashford
Attendance: Some 30,000 people from 44 states in 2011
Price per day: $$$ $52.50-$165
Where to stay: The festival takes place at Merriweather Post Pavilion in Columbnia, MD (28 miles from D.C. and 18 miles southwest of Baltimore). Marriott BWI Airport is the host hotel for the official “mix and mingle reception” and the “late night dance party,” but other hotels near the airport offer special festival rates.
Bonus Track: Get more information — and into the groove — at capitaljazz.com, which has its own radio station.

Roots Picnic
Philadelphia/June 2-3
okayplayer.com/rootspicnic
The Beats: This two-day festival hosted by The Roots, Philly’s own hip-hop band, encourages, attendees to bring a blanket and a picnic basket, and just chill. Now in its fifth year, the event is held at Penn’s Landing and has been expanded from one day to two.
Headliners: Kid Cudi, Wale, DeLa Soul and Major Lazer.
Attendance: In the thousands, though the Roots Picnic feels intimate. Attendees are able to get close to the stage and interact with performers.
Price per day: $$ $50
Where to stay: Downtown Philly is a great location, but any hotel off I-95 is in proximity to the festival or one of the many local cheese-steak dives.

SpeakEasy Comedy Lounge Presents: The Well Endowed Comedy Show
Scottsdale, Phx/ June 8-9
FanFueled.com
Comics: Avery Oliver and Jared Campbell will share the stage with
Headliner: Eric Dugar
Price per ticket: $ $7

Playboy Jazz Festival (PJF)
Los Angeles/ June 16-17
playboyjazzfestival.com
The Beats: Hugh Hefner once called jazz “the music of my dreams,” which may explain why the PJF feels so fairy dusted. Here are three reasons why: L.A. in the summertime; the Hollywood Bowl;and the legends. In its 34 years, the festival has showcased the talents of Ella Fitzgerald, Miles Davis, Marcus Miller and Robert Glasper, just to name a few. Come hear an array of jazz standards, blues, Latin and world fusion. One again, Bill Cosby returns as the master of ceremonies, a gig he’s only missed three times since 1979.
Headliners: Ramsey Lewis, Christian McBride, Sheila E., Boney James and Robin Thicke
Attendance: 35,000 in 2011
Price per day: $$ $20-$160
Where to stay: Get a special rate at the Renaissance Hollywood Hotel & Spa.
Bonus Track Don’t miss the festival’s famous conga lines!

ASU Project Humanities Summer Film Series
Phoenix Metroplex / June 20th and July 17th
Phx-Soul.com

The second in a series of three films addressing the question, “Are we losing our humanity?”
The film, Human Experience, will be showing at South Mountain Community Library, Wednesday, June 20th starting at 6 p.m. The film will be followed by a discussion with ASU faculty and community scholars.
The conversation following the first screening was incredibly engaging. There are no experts here.

The series is presented in partnership with ASU Center for Film, Media, and Popular Culture, ASU Emeritus College Faculty of the Humanities, Phoenix Public Library, and Seek First Entertainment.
The date for the final film, Baraka, is Tuesday, July 17th. More details to follow…

Please come out and share your thoughts with us!
The event is free $0 and open to the public, refreshments will be provided.

Reggae Sumfest
Montego Bay, Jamaica July 15-21
reggaesumfest.com
The Beats: Dubbed “greatest reggae show on Earth,” Sumfest is Jamaica’s leading music festival featuring performances by the biggest artists in the genre, as well as in dancehall, hip-hop and R&B. The five-day event kicks off with Sunday’s beach party; Wednesday is Sound Clash Night; Thursday is Dancehall Night; and Friday and Saturday are both International Nights. This year promises to be particularly special since it marks both the festival’s 20th anniversary and the 50th anniversay of Jamaica’s independence.
Headliners: Damian Marley, Beenie Man, and Mavado. Drake and Rihanna were rumored to be International Night acts at press time.
Attendance: A record 45,000 in 2011. Organizers expect 60,000 this year.
Price per day: $$ $15-$225
Where to stay: Several all-inclusive Mo’Bay resorts have Sumfest travel packages, but if you plan to roam the island by day and the festival at night, you might want to go as cheap as possible on accommodations.

Is Marriage still relevant?

In Communication, Networking, News, Self Improvement on May 29, 2012 at 3:31 pm

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Asking such a question will yield you varied results depending on who you ask. ‘He said, She said’ - Going to the chapel is a huge life decision.

So it’s almost June and a lot of us can be fairly certain that at some time during the 30-day period, we’ll be dressed to the nines, craning our necks during Wagner’s Bridal Chorus,” enjoying an open bar and doing the Electric Slide. Still, marriage rates have been declining for a decade. EBONY asked men and women across the country if the institution is becoming obsolete or whether it’s as valuable as ever.

Does marriage still matter today?

HE SAID…
The institution of marriage has not changed; however, people’s mindset has drastically changed. For example reality stars including Kim Kardashian and her 72-day marriage, Snooki becoming pregnant without being married and the women on the popular Housewives shows have influenced the young generation. It is not surprising that people would not see the significance of marriage.
Roland, 45 Los Angeles

A good marriage allows a man to productively focus his sexual energy on one woman. That way, he can concentrate his other creative energies to be successful in his career or business. I personally believe that the lack of a healthy and enduring marriage is one reason that so many Black males are not on par with other males (White, Asian or Latino) in terms of career, business or financial achievement.
Tony, 48, Dallas

I’m married with kids, but I think that if not obsolete, marriage has become less important for African-American men. Our women aren’t demanding more. They are settling for part-time or temporary relationships that end in emotional discord. Most men will take the path of least resistance, especially if there are no demands placed on them by the women they date.
Ivan, 50, Atlanta

I have tried to [be a] role model for a marriage that is a lot of fun and that’s a desirable activity. Many men don’t advocate the positives of being married. Like they say, “The squeaky wheel gets greased,” and I think more of us happily married men need to get SQUEAKY.
B.J., 35, Washington, D.C.

I plan on getting married and enjoying all of the personal, professional, social and financial benefits of my relationship with my future wife and our children, but not until I further secure my financial stability for the long term.
Rodric, 31, Scottsdale, Ariz.

and then

SHE SAID…
The actual deed of getting married shows how serious we are about our promise to one another. The commitment only begins to look less valuable when people enter into it like a dating relationship. If we’re only making this commitment until one of us gets mad, why bother?
Camesha, 35, Los Angeles

Marriage is becoming less valuable because people do not want to make long-term commitments anymore. Spending the next 50 or 70 years of your life with one person is going to take commitment and work, and some people are not willing to work at it. Couples have to invest time in each other, going on retreats, for example. Most of all, they have to work at forgiveness, trust, being accountable and overlooking the faults of their spouse. Before a couple seals the marriage covenant with “I do,” they have to decide in their hearts and minds that divorce will not be an option.
Darla, 47, Radcliff, KY

I’m not sure if I want to get married. Nowadays, I want a committed relationship with someone who loves and respects me and has his own home, where he can sleep two or three times a week. The goal isn’t for me to be married; it’s for me to be loved and to love someone. If the relationship leads to marriage, then fine. If it doesn’t, that is okay as well.
Shannon, 43, Washington, D.C.

I am married to my wonderful husband of 10 years, and neither of us would have it any other way.
Tamira, 35, Orlando, FL

I have come to believe that most people want to be married, but no one wants to be miserable. Therefore, I strongly believe that relationship readiness skills need to be a core part of social curricula in school, church, and most certainly in the family. I’m a single christian woman who strongly believes in marriage. I look forward to making a connection that leads to a life commitment.
V. McLeod, 50+, Savannah, GA

[Ref. Source: Ebony Magazine]

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My personal story is one you already know.
I’m still with my HS Beau & Love is like woah!
I still love him madly. He still makes me laugh.
We span 2 decades through much and less cash.
The key is to laugh!

Keeping a commitment is easy – even though I’m from a divorced home.
I was born the second child of 4 – my life is not one of lone.
And so here I am, no fan of “marriage” but of “being in love”.
I do believe my guy was made-for-me. A gift from the man above.

Because I am not easy to deal with. I am no escalating crystal stair.
There’s much more to satisfying me than getting my nails done & hair.
I’m a picky eater and the house must be cleaned as so!
I’m adventurous in travel and have a knack for going to and fro.

My mate is no easy push over, regardless of what you’ve heard.
However, he is sweet on me, and is an awesomely tech-skilled nerd.

Did I jump the broom? I did — over 2 decades ago,
I’m Qui
A believer in commitment
— … aka that marriage show.

She had weed in her backpack

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Self Improvement on May 23, 2012 at 8:49 pm

Not just any kind of weed but a very high grade of weed. She called me on the phone frantic saying, “Mommi! Mommi! Someone put weed in my backpack!” I was asleep when I answered the call and hearing my child scream those words on the other end woke me up quicker than a triple expresso shot. I was up, dressed, and wearing Mac Ruby Woo lipstick when I arrived at her school 12 minutes after the call.

10:30 am — I enter the VP’s office just in time to see a SECURITY Representative going through the contents of my childs book bag. There’s a pile of pens and pencils, sinus meds (I’d given her days before, that she never took) pushed to the side, and various books. In the center of the table (all alone) was a small zip lock bag of weed.

“What happened?”, I asked. “Well,” says the VP, “It seems the kid found a bag of weed in her book bag while in her Honors Class – period 1. My daughter then chimed in, “I was in AVID when the tutor said today would be the last day we would need to bring our books to class, because there’s less than a week left in the school year and we have Monday off for Memorial Day. Great! So I began to remove my books and clean out my back pack. That’s when I found the small bag of weed in my pencil section. I freaked out and yelled, ‘WEED!?’ then threw it on the floor away from my book bag. My gf then picked it up and put it in the trash. I then got up and went to the front of the class and told the instructor that I just found weed in my book bag and that my gf threw it away. They advised me to go get it out of the trash, put it back in my book bag and that they would take care of the issue asap. That’s when I called my mom.”

By the time I arrived at the school, Security had already sniffed her bag, her hands, and sorted through her belongings. I support the search. Because my kid is not a smoker or weed connoiseuer. The VP assures me that she does not fit the profile, and that the small bag of weed was of a ‘high grade’, and is usually found with rolling papers, a lighter, matches, or a smoking bong. Then he said to me, “but we didn’t find her bong.” It sounded hilarious to me. My kid is a hard asthmatic and nerd. I said, “bong?” The VP said, “Yes. We’ve seen this before and weed is always accompanied with a way to smoke it”.

Well thank God my kid did not have a bong or any other aparatus on her. I think it saved her status quo. The VP then asked her if anyone else had been handling her bag. My kid said, “No, but yesterday when I was in passing between classes, it felt like someone was messing with the back of my backpack but when I turned around no one was there.” The VP then said, well the school is camera’d – we’ll rewind yesterdays tapes and see what we can find. My daughter then wrote her statement down, signed it and they sent her back to class. The VP asked me to stay for a few moments. I did. After my daughter was gone, he said that tomorrow is “BOOK BAG CHECK DAY” and that it is customary for them to do a book bag check at the end of every year, (much like what you go thru at the airport with TSA) and that if the weed would have been found tomorrow, there likely would have been an arrest and a long court battle in the AZ courts.

WOAH!

He said, my kid did the right thing in telling the teacher and ultimately coming to his office immediately after class and reporting it. He then said, “Yesterday we busted a kid with weed and conviscated his cell phone – went through it and found text exchanges about weed with 30 other students” in their school and that today “there is an investigation underway concerning the matter.” He assured me that my childs name was not on that list, and that this incident may or may not be associated with the current investigation. He was also skeptical of someone putting weed into my kids bag during passing, as they wouldn’t have enough time to do so — but still because that’s her story, he’d check the tapes.

We’re new residents to the state and the school district, so we knew nothing about the school system, drug issues, or official book bag check day. I am grateful to God that my kid found the weed TODAY and not tomorrow. We have averted a whole world of getting stuck in the justice system. The VP was awesome, he shook my hand and assured me he’d be in touch once he’d conducted his own investigation.

I left the school and went straight to my doctors office, I had an appointment and I was pretty sure my blood pressure was high. While I was there, I get a text message from my kid:

1 pm — “Mom, I’m on my way back down to Security”.

I’m freaking out again. Why is she going back? I text back to her, “Do I need to come up there again?” — she doesn’t respond. I pick up the VP’s business card and call him several times, (refusing to leave a vm). On the 3rd call, I reached his secretary, told her my concerns and she said, “I’ll have him call you back”. He called me back within 30 minutes and said, he did his in house investigation and rewound yesterdays tapes and sure enough he saw a guy standing suspiciously behind my kid in the hall way at the end of the school day as she made her way out of the school and to her bus. The guy was a student. “The camera shows him tampering with your daughters backpack. I sent the footage to security and they have called your daughter down to identify that that is her on the tape and to ask her to identify the male behind her. She identified him as a student she takes her last class with.” So again, my kid is off the hook, doesn’t fit the profile and didn’t lie about what she thought had happened to her as to how she got the weed in her book bag.

They said ‘thing is’ the guy who put it in her backpack knew about the book bag search that’s going to go down tomorrow and knew very well that my kid did not know about it. He’s one of the very few Black guys she knows [in this predominently White school] and he sets her up for a fall of the nastiest kind. Sheriff Arpaiho is not one to be messed with.

My child identified the student and the investigation is now moving on to the next stage — likely a 10-day suspension for the young boy who put it in her bag and a long bout in the AZ court systems as he’ll be charged with possession.

I asked her why would he do such a thing, and my kid said, “Well Mom, that’s the guy I told you about that sits next to me in math who turned to me one day and said, ‘See that’s why we don’t date Black girls’” [this coming from a Black boy]. When she first told me about that ignorant statement, I said, “Cool. Because you’re only 14 and you don’t date anyway”. Then she went on to tell me that he’s a freshman too and already has a baby, [by a black girl]. That’s when I told my kid she should have responded to his earlier ignorant statement of ‘not dating a black girl’: “Good, because you’ve got a kid already and I don’t babysit.” Hallelujah – he’s not interested in black girls [anymore] she dodged the bullet on that note — and today she dodged the DOJ train.
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She had weed in her backpack - but it was not hers at all.
It was a ‘high grade’ weed in a clear bag – small.

It wasn’t hers and the school camera’s helped to foil the ploy
by rewinding the tapes and catching the weed culprit boy.

Later, I was talking to my doctor and she said weed at that school is no new score.
She was warned of the drug usage issue – from a member of the school board.

So her kid goes to a rival school, and the reports keep rolling in,
that the school my kid goes to is like Beverly Hills Nine-Oh-Two-Ten.

Uh-oh! and Oh No!
it’s a modern day 90210.

Beamers, Mercedes, and money by the wads.
My kid rides the bus and doesn’t smoke squat.

My blood pressure was high – thats why I went to see the doc.
Before the VP found the tapes, I thought my head would pop.

Thank God it’s over now and God bless the young man
that took it upon himself to insert weed — by his hands.

He’ll be dealt with tomorrow – if he hasn’t already today.
I’m Qui
Happy
to be able to trust the words that my kid did say.

She had weed in her backpack,
but it was not hers.

The ART of the Deal

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News on May 21, 2012 at 5:13 pm

Save Money by honing your bargaining skills.

In these tough and economic times, every dollar counts. So if you can end up with some extra cash in your pocket by simply polishing your bargaining techniques, all the better! Try these tactics on your next shopping trip. Dawn Papandera rummages through it for us::

AT FLEA MARKETS
Why it makes sense Negotiating is expected.
Spending strategy First walk the flea market to get a sense of prices. Unless there’s something you must have, wait until the end of the day to make purchases, says Scott Gamm, personal finance expert and founder of HelpSaveMyDollars.com. “That’s when you get the best deals, because sellers might be planning on clearing out their inventory.” Also, always carry cash, says Teri Gault, CEO and founder of TheGroceryGame.com. “Keep all increments handy: coins, dollars, fives, tens. you don’t want to pay more if they don’t have change.” Most important, keep in mind that flea markets are almost always finale sale. Test items before you buy them: Inspect clothing and furniture for holes, stains or rips: check dishes for cracks: and ask to plug in electronics to see if they work. If a product is questionable, walk away.

AT GARAGE SALES
why it makes senseSellers are as anxious to get rid of them as they are to make a buck.

Spending strategy Start by connecting with homeowners to see why they’re having the sale. For instance is their house on the market or has it just been sold? “You’ll have more leeway for negotiation,” says Gamm, pointing out that it’s better for the seller to get $5 for an item than for it to end up on the curb. if you can’t get the deal you want, leave your phone number and tell sellers to call you if no one else shows interest– they just may reconsider your offer.

AT DEPARTMENT STORES
Why it makes sense they have some flexibility and offer perks and extra sales for cardholders.

Spending strategy Ask the salesperson if there are any in-store coupons he could swipe for you, or if he would honor an expired coupon. Follow your favorite stores on Facebook and Twitter so you’ll be notified about sales in advance. When you’re searching for something specific, do some online research to get an idea of the average price. Gault also suggests examining merchandise and pointing out minor imperfections in a noncritical way to see if you can get a discount (that is, assuming the defect is something you can live with). For example, you could say: “I love this shirt, but it’s the last one and the button is hanging off. since I’d have to sew it back on, could you give me a discount?” Gault says that strategy can usually get you 10%-20% off.

AT NEIGHBORHOOD MOM-AND-POP STORES
Why makes sense The owner has the final say on pricing and may be open to negotiation.

Spending strategy Try to deal with independent shops when the proprietor is there. If she has stepped out, don’t be afraid to ask the clerk to get in touch with her, because salespeople will often defer to the boss, claiming they don’t have the authority to modify prices. Buying quantity puts you in a better position to bargain. “A lot of times I’ve gotten half off on the second pair of shoes,” Gault says. Another way to gain bargaining position is to keep tabs on competitors’ prices. But be mindful of how you bring those up, since small shops often can’t compete with big-box stores, says Diane Gottsman, owner of the Protocol School of Texas, which specializes in corporate etiquette training. She advises saying something like: “I’d love to do business with you since you’re in my neighborhood, but so-and-so has a better price. Can you match their offer or at least come closer?” Gottsman says, “You can be polite and still show assertiveness.” Other ideas: Inquire about discounts if you purchase a floor model or showcase item tha might be missing its box. Just be sure to get in writing that the item is still covered under warranty.

AT FURNITURE AND APPLIANCE STORES
Why it makes sense You’re making big purchases.

Spending strategy Always ask to speak with a manager, since a higher-ranking employee may be more willing and able to work with you. If there’s no wiggle room, there are other ways to save. “See if the price can include tax,” Gault says. “Or inquire about free delivery, assembly or treatments like spot guard.” No matter the venue, the key is to never feel embarrassed about bargaining say Gamm. “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”

The ART of the Deal can be a lot of fun.
Share your bargaining stories at FamilyCircle.com

I’m Qui
Avidly magazine reading
and sharing with you: informative seeding.

TED was ‘sked

In Communication, Griot, Networking, News, Politics, Science, Technology on May 18, 2012 at 7:18 pm

‘Sked. What’s ‘sked and what does it mean?
‘Sked is slang for scared.
Scared means verb. to fill, especially suddenly, with fear or terror; frighten; alarm.

Recently TED was ‘sked to add the following video of Nick Hanauer to their home page post the last TED convention. Why? Because he was honest in explaining capitalism and how yielding welfare to the rich [corporations] does not create jobs, when in fact it is the consumers needs and demands that create jobs.

Nick is no saint looking out for ‘the people’. He’s a capital venturist who banks on the consumer consuming so that he can make money off of them. In so many words Nick said, if the consumer isn’t buying, he isn’t getting their dollar and the economy is at a halt. Which is where many Americans are today. They don’t have jobs to afford anything extra beyond staple food and can’t-do-without medicine.

So Nick offers advice to jump-start the economy and it doesn’t start with tax cuts for the rich. Usually the key note speakers deliverance is immediately posted on TED’s page post the convention. However, Nicks keynote speech was not put up immediately, because his honesty didn’t mesh well with the corporate big wigs that support TED. Here’s what Nick Hanauer said:

Eat it for what it is and digest the honest message,
I’m Qui
and it is in the money that Nick [the capitalist] is vested.

After taping Nicks speech it was clear that: Ted was ‘sked
because they promote corporate tax cuts for the rich to get ahead.

So the rich don’t need a tax break to create jobs.
And those that cry ‘they do’ are corporate welfare slobs.

If I don’t have no money —
You can’t get none honey
.

The Man with the Back Hand

In Communication, Griot, Movies, Networking, News on May 18, 2012 at 6:05 pm

is WILL SMITH::

This is NOT “Six Degrees of Separation”

click the video picture to see the video in full size via TMZ

Well if you were wondering if Will learned anything from playing Muhammed Ali?
He learned a pretty quick back hand that came in handy at the film premier: MIB III.

He almost sucker punched the dude [Will admitted in the end].
I’m Qui
and it ain’t a friendly kiss if your trying to put your ‘tongue in’.
Yuck!!!

The bus came and…

In Communication, Griot, Music, Networking, News, Politics on May 17, 2012 at 6:44 pm

Photo Flipbook Slideshow Maker

So I wake up this morning to a couple of people gone.
Donna Summers and RFK Jr’s wife have exited for home.

One died of the lung cancer and the other asphyxiation.
Though crossing over on the same day is their current relation.

I don’t know what Mrs. Kennedy’s reason may have been – or what in life she couldn’t handle.
But there are many reasons to hang thyself/or be hung – per the ABC series: SCANDAL.

Have you seen any of the episodes? They’re certainly good to go!
No one navigates the political scene like Ms. Kerry. Woah.

Life is but a stage – each man his entrance and his exit;
Thus Donna Sommers and Mrs. Kennedy are in the same neighborhood nexus.

We’ll miss them both. I knew not of Mrs. Kennedy, but I do remember Donna S.
The year was 1983 when she and her daughter MiMi entertained us best!
No I didn’t go to the concert, but I was fortunate to catch the taped show.
Life was good in my suburban hood, I grew up on HBO. LOL!

So the bus came and the two ladies entered to reach the other side,
I’m Qui
Celebrating the moment
, because death is a normal in this game called life.

Word to the wise: Don’t accelerate your exit. God’s will won’t fail.
Besides if you believe the Bible– Suicide is a ride into hell.

I really and truly hope not….
Though suicide should never be your go-to opt.
Plan not ever to make it your final bus stop.

Live long. Be prosperous and always smile.
Life is no crystal stair but it gets better by the mile.

Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close

In Communication, Networking, News, Self Improvement on May 16, 2012 at 12:11 pm

I talk to my kid a lot, to stay one social accord, but what about talking to them about:: Crime. Recession. Terrorism. Tsunamis. In our digital age, the news—much of it big, scary and confusing— is everywhere, all the time. And whether it’s on television or radio, in print or online, teens and tweens are constantly exposed to disturbing stories, images and videos that can cause them to view the planet as a threatening, terrifying place. “On the other hand we want our kids to know what’s going on around them,” says Michael Brody, M.D., chair of the television and media committee for the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. “Problem is, the news is not rated. A lot of it is sensational, horror-story stuff, which means parents need to put things in perspective.” Learn how to talk to your kids about current events, from natural disasters, to politics to war, with these smart strategies. You’ll calm their fears and help them make better sense of those screaming headline. Plus, it’s a starting point for a deeper, ongoing dialogue that will expand their minds and get them thinking about their role and responsibility in the real world.

FIND AN OPENING
It may seem obvious, but you can’t discuss the news with your kids until you’re aware of exactly what they know. Expressing an interest in what their friends are thinking is a good way to get them to open up, since adolescents are more likely to share thoughts and ideas that they’ve already discussed with peers. But don’t be impatient if your child seems tight-lipped or flippant. “Sometimes teens don’t ask questions– or they crack jokes about serious issues— because they’re struggling with intense emotions like anger, anxiety or sadness but can’t identify them,” says Ernestine Briggs-King, Ph.D., a director at the National Center for Child Traumatic Stress at Duke University. Parent’s can help kids sort things out by making supportive, encouraging comments such as “You keep bringing that subject up. How is it making you feel?”

KEEP IT SIMPLE
Once you start talking, let your child determine the scope of the conversation. “When it comes to the news, the biggest mistake parents make is telling kids too much,” says Brody. Teens of course, are able to understand cause and effect, abstract ideas, and concepts like unpredictability and injustice, but too many specifics can overwhelm them. “It’s like being on the witness stand in a trial,” says Brody. “Don’t blow your case by introducing thing not in evidence. Just answer the questions.”

COMFORT AS NEEDED.
As sophisticated and tough as they may seem, today’s kids are vulnerable— after all, they’ve grown up in a high-risk world where the threat of terrorism makes daily headlines. As a result, events like earthquakes, civil unrest or even soccer riots can trigger anxiety and unconscious fears. “In a tween’s mind, something terrible happening across the globe could just as easily happen across the street,” says Ted Lempert, president of Children Now, a California-based youth advocacy organization. Teens also still relate to the news, no matter where it occurs, in a personalized way. Kids who read about the war in Afghanistan, for example, might be concerned about its effects on people they know, or what the conflict means for their own future.

Encourage your children to talk to you about what upsets them. You can’t help if you don’t know.

Above all,
be honest when talking to your kids about the news.
Don’t say the world is perfectly safe, but do remind them
of the steps people are taking to make it better.

CLEAR UP CONFUSION
When a major event happens, it’s all too easy for kids to get the story wrong. they might hear half-truths from friends, glimpse a misleading headline or catch only the most sensationalist teaser on TV—and then start spreading the news. “Super-scary stories have enormous traction among tweens and teens because they’re at an age when emotions are highly contagious,” says pyschologist Dave Walsh, Ph.D., author of Smarter Parenting, Smarter Kids (Free Press).

You can help prevent misconceptions by monitoring your kids’ exposure to the headlines. Share the morning paper with them over breakfast, listen to informative programs on the radio or watch them together on TV. “But don’t just come home and turn on the news, especially when a crisis has occurred,” says Brody. That’s when grim, often violent footage is replayed in a seemingly endless loop and adolescents can develop an excessive fascination even though it scares them.

TAKE ACTION
When you think about it, kids find the news distressing for the same reasons adults do– a sense of helplessness in the face of suffering and the feeling that so much in the world is beyond our control. Parents can help by suggesting ways their kids can step up, whether its going green to combat global warming, sending relief supplies for victims of floods or quakes, or honoring those who’ve sacrificed their lives. “You can do a bake sale to support our troops abroad or round up toys for the children of military families,” Briggs-King says. “It doesn’t have to be big. Just doing something is tremendously empowering and helps kids feel more secure.”

The last two posts [on this site] are of the parental kind
because protecting our kids – is what’s hard on my mind.

I’m listing the good stuff, because I too, am on the parenting team.
I’m Qui
And I found this little piece printed in FAMILY CIRCLE magazine.

by Amanda Robb/ Illustrations by Ronald J. Cala

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